It’s 2019 and sex positivity is in full swing. But a few women have started voicing complaints. Among the “I should get to cum, too” statements or “predators welcome sex positivity and hookup culture because they can easily tailor it to their use” callouts lies one important issue.
Subject Gwendolyn Hueth elaborates: “Every time I’m with a man, he tells me that he loves playing with my boobs or that my butt is perfect. I’m so tired of not being valued for more. Why can’t they compliment me for my left labia?”
Indeed, 90% of individuals with labia report that they’ve never been complimented on them and 100% report that no one has even praised their left labia.
“It feels like we’re going backward,” says researcher Dr. Howard, who claims that the progress in complimenting women on their personalities has unfortunately deducted from the chances of a left labia compliment.
“Next time you think about calling a woman smart, instead try thinking about how you can be creative and original in objectifying her body,” Howard recommends.
Labia get very little recognition overall. Most pornographic productions choose to cast cis women who’ve had labial reductions. When men are asked to label diagrams of vulvas they miss the labia completely, often simply circling the whole crotch region and calling it “vagina.” Labia have been rendered invisible in society, and invisible in sex.
“Think of how little attention the left labia gets during the typical sexual encounter. In penetration based gratification, the partner simply slides right past the labia without a second thought. In cunnilingus, it’s all about the clit and the labia are only addressed by amateurs.” Howard continued in her interview. “It’s a travesty. How can we reduce women to their boobs and asses when there’s so much else? I mean, there’s a whole entire right labia that we didn’t even get to talk about.”
“I’m a twenty-eight-year-old woman and I’ve had dozens of sexual encounters. I already know that guys like my boobs, and frankly, I’m tired of hearing the same thing over and over again.” Hueth said. “Guys need to start trying a little harder to flatter me. They use the same two lines on everyone they sleep with, and then have the audacity to call themselves poets because they own a moleskin.”
Hueth concluded: “It’s pretty obvious that men are going to reduce us to a binary biological essentialism of our genitals and secondary sex characteristics, but for the love of God, can they at least get creative about it?”